Bisexuals get no LGBT love, apparentlyPosted: January 20, 2011
So I was browsing reddit, like I do, and I happened upon a mother telling her daughter she is a slut if she is bi. This shared text exchange caused me to revisit a bar conversation I had recently with sex journalist Rabbit White. Our conversation started out with the discussion of the “queer” label’s rising popularity, but quickly moved over to the black sheep of the LGBT community: the bisexuals. The general feeling is either bisexuals are whores at heart or don’t know they’re gay yet.
This was news to me, but you’ll have to forgive me on this one – I never got into the whole LGBT community because a) I am not one for “groups”, b) I don’t really go around announcing my sexual orientation and c) I exhibit no visual markers or cues through my clothing or hair so my bisexuality rarely comes up. My sexual orientation is my own personal business, so in my silence I guess people assume I am straight? I never felt the need to “out” myself as a bisexual, but I think this is the problem the community has with me. I am either “confused”, an artsy chick trying to be edgy, or worse, one of those curious girls kissing each other at a frat party for “top dog” status.
The idea of me being a slut though, cracks me up – I wish I was a loose woman. I wish I had one night stands. I wish I didn’t have to get to know someone really well before I felt comfortable with them touching my private parts. As for me picking sides, what kind of nonsense is that? I really don’t care what kind of genitals you have under your clothes, so how would I go about picking one when I like them all? Why isn’t everyone a bisexual? And how is it non-bisexuals don’t love all people? Why can’t straights, gays and lesbians get past gender to imagine love and happiness? This importance placed on gender is such a primitive way of thinking, and in my opinion, lesbians, gays and straight folk are defective and narrow-minded. Why are you so obsessed with genitals, people? That’s so 1st Century BC.
Did I sound self-righteous and arrogant in the previous paragraph? … It was my intention. That sort of negative dialog is not something I would expect from a member of the LGBT community – it’s obviously counterproductive. Furthermore, making blanket statements about people’s sexuality and/or excluding a segment of the population based on their gender preferences distracts us from the real issue at hand: like why we, as humans, are still not comfortable with our own sexuality.
The Next Great Generation – Bisexuality: The Punching Bag Orientation
Rabbit Write – The Bisexual Struggle: Do I need to come out?
Yahoo Answers – Why are people so cynical about bisexuality?
reddit threads –
Why is it that people absolutely refuse to take my Bisexuality seriously? I feel ostracized by both the straight community and gay community. It’s like no one believes that Bisexual people are really “bi”, like we are just faking it for attention or don’t know who we are yet.